As always, I want to write back the material that has been described by Lex in Fame overnight. Matter this time is about the Secret Gives Second Chance. Interesting? I think it is very interesting.
I think everyone ever felt hurt and let down by their partner, right? Have you ever thought to give a second chance to your partner?
There are four stages that will be outlined here.
It is important to make the rules at the beginning of dealing with your partner. Explain what things you don't like and things that you can not tolerate. Explain to your partner what punishment would you give him/her if they break them. Example: Tell your partner that you will be very upset if your partner is cheating.
By the time he/she was breaking the rules that you create, express your anger at him/her. Not anger exploding, but tell him/her about how you feel. For example, you tell him/her that you are disappointed and saddened by the action that he/she did. But you must remember, never intervenes him/her. Example: "You were having an affair and never want to please me. Always makes me angry and sad." Believe me, if you say like that, he/she will not listen to you, but she/he will be busy looking for a reason to deny it.
This is the most important stage. If he/she was sorry and asked for another chance, you may require him/her to do the things what you want. Real Action. For example, during this time he/she was very long answer your message with busy grounds when in fact he/she was calling her/his ex. Or he/she rarely had time to go out with a thousand reasons. Well, now you can create healing for yourself. You need to tell him/her what he/she should do if he/she wants to get back with you. Such as, say to him/her if he/she had to report to you if he/she wants to go. Or you want him/her reply your text within a few minutes after you sent. It's okay as long as you do still within reasonable limits. Give him/her the Time Frame. Time frame is the deadline you gave to him/her to do things that you requested earlier.
The last step is the evaluation. Time Frame During the period, is he/she does what you want? Is he/she serious about doing what you want? If he/she shows good intentions, you have to give him/her the award. If not, it means he/she's not worth it to you. If still be dating, you can break up. If you are married, you can be divorced. Lex said: "Never fear divorce." I agree with Lex. If your partner is not able to work together with you, why should it be maintained? You chose to stay but can not be happy? Whatever, it is your choice and get ready for the consequences.
I think everyone ever felt hurt and let down by their partner, right? Have you ever thought to give a second chance to your partner?
There are four stages that will be outlined here.
It is important to make the rules at the beginning of dealing with your partner. Explain what things you don't like and things that you can not tolerate. Explain to your partner what punishment would you give him/her if they break them. Example: Tell your partner that you will be very upset if your partner is cheating.
By the time he/she was breaking the rules that you create, express your anger at him/her. Not anger exploding, but tell him/her about how you feel. For example, you tell him/her that you are disappointed and saddened by the action that he/she did. But you must remember, never intervenes him/her. Example: "You were having an affair and never want to please me. Always makes me angry and sad." Believe me, if you say like that, he/she will not listen to you, but she/he will be busy looking for a reason to deny it.
This is the most important stage. If he/she was sorry and asked for another chance, you may require him/her to do the things what you want. Real Action. For example, during this time he/she was very long answer your message with busy grounds when in fact he/she was calling her/his ex. Or he/she rarely had time to go out with a thousand reasons. Well, now you can create healing for yourself. You need to tell him/her what he/she should do if he/she wants to get back with you. Such as, say to him/her if he/she had to report to you if he/she wants to go. Or you want him/her reply your text within a few minutes after you sent. It's okay as long as you do still within reasonable limits. Give him/her the Time Frame. Time frame is the deadline you gave to him/her to do things that you requested earlier.
The last step is the evaluation. Time Frame During the period, is he/she does what you want? Is he/she serious about doing what you want? If he/she shows good intentions, you have to give him/her the award. If not, it means he/she's not worth it to you. If still be dating, you can break up. If you are married, you can be divorced. Lex said: "Never fear divorce." I agree with Lex. If your partner is not able to work together with you, why should it be maintained? You chose to stay but can not be happy? Whatever, it is your choice and get ready for the consequences.
